Gratitude- How Do You Find It When You’re Not Feeling It?
A friend reached out to me a few days ago. She recently lost her husband whom she more than just… read more
The Consequence of “Othering”
A Commentary on Asian-Targeted Violence in the United States 1987 I’m at a restaurant with my then French boyfriend. We’re… read more
Cultural Narcissism
Do We Feel Superior to Others Based on Where We’re From? In Episode 2 of my new podcast, The Accidental… read more
The Mid-Century Pause Button: Turning 50 in Lockdown
I recently turned 50 in Lockdown and shared these reflections on my private social media shortly after my birthday. Am… read more
Broad Stripes, Bright Stars and Banned Passports
Until a vaccine is made universally available so that all Americans can travel freely around the globe again, allow me to take off my mask to reveal two “truths” (for those who are not already in the know) to my fellow US passport holders about travelling as Americans outside the States: 1) We are not the “darlings” of the world we think we are. 2) We never were.
Dear Grieving Friend
Strength is overrated. People will wish you strength as one of the “tick the box” condolence statements. They mean well. Don’t worry at all about having to be strong in your loss especially if up till now, you’ve been the strong one that everyone else has leaned on. Feeling like you have to be strong (which we do for others) is futile and self-defeating when all you may be feeling at the moment is numb and depleted.